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If you are one who's around 18 or up. You would see a completely picture toward others than the ones who's under 18. For instance, I use to stay harsh stuff to people without caring about their feeling. Scorn the unpopular ones and being a narcissist all the time.
After doing some volunteer at a university, I felt I am a completely different me now. During conversation, I would try to make my comments or feedbacks as positive as possible and making myself sounds like I am always being optimistic. If one of female friend's hair smells abit, I wouldn't say nothing about it since it's a personal problem. Before my college experience, I would be screaming out loud and start embarrassing that individual.

Anyways, in conclusion to all above. Do u think our outer self and personality would fake away as we become more mature on a day to day basis?

pwner4once wrote:If you are one who's around 18 or up. You would see a completely picture toward others than the ones who's under 18. For instance, I use to stay harsh stuff to people without caring about their feeling. Scorn the unpopular ones and being a narcissist all the time.
After doing some volunteer at a university, I felt I am a completely different me now. During conversation, I would try to make my comments or feedbacks as positive as possible and making myself sounds like I am always being optimistic. If one of female friend's hair smells abit, I wouldn't say nothing about it since it's a personal problem. Before my college experience, I would be screaming out loud and start embarrassing that individual.

Anyways, in conclusion to all above. Do u think our outer self and personality would fake away as we become more mature on a day to day basis?

I believe we are afterall who we are only thing is we grow up (at least normally) over time which is abit too fast for me to catch up to these days.. As we see/hear/feel more stuffs and issues, we began to develop more insights to the world we are in and what's actually happening around us ie. enviormental influence (including peers/collegues ...) and experiences mainly. Some of us tends to take a longer time in apprehending it that's all .. and as we comprehand bits by bits, that's I guess is the process of our growing up ...
But as for your question, I believe there is always a child in us.. Its just the extent as well as enviorment/situations we are in that whether and how of our "childhood's best friend", the younger you, shows true.. So I won't say that our personality will fade away but more of we tune, refine and correct as well as adapt it. For outer-self, I don;t know if you're referring to looks because that's how i define it as, the bones structures remain the same as well so the same concepts for personality applies as well
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Just my 2 cents .... maybe I'm just blabbering haha

I think its a fair comment, I don't think the age 18's a fair barrier though it takes some people alot less time to mature and some a great deal more. It does all depend on social cirumstances and the situations we're thrown into.

As always I have a completely other opinion on this. =)

There is one factor you have missed. How much did the person get from his childhood? I'm 21 years old and still a little kid, because my childhood was a mess. I've got in touch with poverty and even the streets of Germany. Now I'm fairly "resocialized", but my past has had a strong influence to me. If you don't get to actually live your childhood, then you'll be a child forever. So am I and I think that's not bad. =)

My opinion is: the child in you always stays there. The only thing that happens to you: you gain control over it. Most people turn off the child sometime and sadly many of them forget to turn it back on. We're heading a robot society.

mm_freak made a statement that I completely agree with. "We're heading a robot society."

I'm going to have to look up your information on here and find out your age because you don't sound like a kid or anything.

I'm 27 - which I mistakenly typed too quickly in the welcome forum and I'm going to have to see about mending that mistake. I've been in the "online scene" for over 10 years now. I believe I first logged on to mIRC when I was about 15 or 16. I remember Napster when it was free.

I've watched myself grow over the years with the internet aspect and seen that while I still tend to 'act up' a little. But mm_freak was right - we have to be able to turn the child within ourselves on and off when necessary.

I still tend to be a complete jerk when I deem it necessary. But at the same time, I can be a completely sweet girl. And the whole time, it's real. My personality is that of great complexities and I am funny, smart, mean, nice... all in the same person.

im 23, im serous if i have too but most of the time, im i dont know..shall i say a kid.. i dont like it when things are too serious..

I'm 21 now (since 2005-09-22). One of the youngest serious members here. =)

Actually, I think like this since I have my own opinion. And I don't remember a time where I didn't have that. That's because I've lived through almost any situation one could imagine. I'm still a little kid. =)

I've been online since I was 16 years old; must be like 1999 or 2000. But in total, for only about 3 years now, because I didn't always have the money for a line. Internet in Germany is a lot more expensive than elsewhere. I've got most of my knowledge in my offline time.

the power of time factor..
time really changes everything.
I've always been a sensitive man ,always talking with care .Always afraid to hurt others. Since i've been on internet 97` i've always talked to others with care and warmth .I've never thought that we've this internet medium firewall between us. But yet i've suffered with the worst experiences with it .Friends leaving without caring ,without any message .People screwing you from behind .Friends leaving you for friends .A year back i've concluded that i've a disease called sensitivity ,which I may say I am negatively sensitive. So I just thought to change myself..

if you're a sensitive man ,try not to conclude in a moment ,THAT THIS MAN IS A HEART KILLER and THIS MAN IS CRUEL.. just give others some time ,atleast to make their point of view, to clear their faults.


Try not to expect from others, we usually expect alot from others and suddenly when they ditch us ,we think ohh damn it happened !! aaah

If you share things ,don't expect others to share ,as you did.. Everyone has the right to share or not.. we sometimes make it a sign of disloyalty.

im 21 now .. as i've changed alot and my life has become alot more easier ..

Good Luck for you guys

best reagards,
Yo-Man

im 18... I just had a month of life that i dont want to live it never again... i was asking myself should i enjoy my youth, drink, smoke, fuck or be a little bit more serious... all this was so complicated and i couldnt decide... after 4 hours of talk with my ex-girlfriend it was crystal clear to me... i decided to live a more serious life, i know im young and i should enjoy but i dont want to live this kind of life...

I`m under 18 (17 and half) but i live serious life since i`m 16. So i don`t think that age is important, i think that more important for this someone is serious or not is his personality. You can be on 60 but that don`t meen you are serious